Tuesday, November 27, 2007

sonando

I napped with Amado yesterday because I was feeling like I was coming down with a cold. It was cold, so we cuddled up together in the big bed and fell asleep for almost 2.5 hours. It was heaven, his little warm head pressed against my neck.

I woke up before him but knew he would feel me if I got out of bed so I just laid there for awhile. When I finally did get up, I had walked from one side of the bed to the other and he jolted awake, just like I thought.

He had clearly been in deep sleep. But as soon as his little eyes popped open, he said,
"Quisas tambien el perro queria ir a la iglesia. Quein sabe. Quisas si, quisas no".

I laid down next to him, and said, "mande, mijo?"

It seemed like at that moment he realized that what he has said made no sense in this context, because he turned to me all sleepy eyed and said, "sonaste tambien, mami?"

Thursday, November 22, 2007

work

Yesterday, Amado was playing with a meghaphone toy thing that belongs to his cousin. He loves those things.

Pretty soon, he started chanting, "Si Se Puede!"

Then he turned to me and informed me "si se puede es mi trabajo".

Monday, November 19, 2007

I wanted a girl…


When I was pregnant, I hoped I would have a girl. I wasn't distraught at the thought of having a boy, I just felt so much more comfortable with the idea of having a girl. I know girls- most of my friends are girls, Im a girl, my sister is a girl. You know. But everyone took one look at my belly, and informed me I was having a boy. So I was expecting a boy, but deep inside was hoping that my belly shape was throwing everyone off and that there was actually a girl cooking in there.

When Amado was born, I didn't give it another thought. After 41 hours of labor, I was happy to have him out. And he wasn't completely well, had to spend his first 5 days in the Neo-natal Intensive Care Unit, so I was focused on him being healthy enough to come home.

But now, looking back at this all, its interesting to reflect on the fact that even with all my gender analysis, with my belief that we socialize kids based on our own gender roles, I still wanted a "girl". I think a lot of progressive and radical people do this. I had an idea of what a girl is and I wanted that.

Often, when mamas like me reflect back on that journey, they end up in the place of being happy with their boys because they bring out a new part of them, that girl wouldn't have. Watching garbage trucks and digging with a tonka tractor in the yard is pretty cool. But even still in this, a lot of us continue to keep those gender expectations in place. If I had a girl, she wouldn't be into garbage trucks. He likes the tonka tractor because he's a boy.

What Amado is teaching me is that we gotta redefine what a "boy" is. Because I know Amado pretty well. And I don't think he is the anomaly, I think this is what a boy is. Boys are loving. Boys like to cuddle. Boys like to dress up like bumble bees. Boys like shiny glittery beads and handbags that match. Boys love to cook. Boys are enthusiastic about helping with the laundry. Boys love to grab their own brooms and sweep next to you. Boys beam when you notice they are working hard. Boys love play kitchens. Boys like to cuddle with dolls. Boys love to read.

Some of us are happy with our boys, but still pine for a girl. Im not. Im happy being the mama of a boy. Im proud to be the mama of a boy. I love being a mama to a boy.

Monday, November 12, 2007

lovely boy

I havent written mch in awhile because Ive been busy writing stuff for school. This wont be long, but I figured it was worth sharing.

This morning, when we woke up (Jason was out of town so Amado and I slept together), Amado said "Buenos Dias, Mami!" I was trying to squeeze a little more sleep out of him, trying to coax him back into laying down. I patted the bed next to me, he laid his little body and head down, and I though "alright!".

His face was a few inches from mine, and he put his warm hand on my cheek. "Te quiero mucho, Mami."

I smiled at him, with my eyes still closed. "Gracias! Te quiero mucho, mijo. Te quiero con todo mi corazon."

Then he said, "Gracias por mi vida, mami."